A Mea Culpa and a path forward

Well, it’s been a lot longer than I expected it to be. I knew that I’d be taking a small break from the site in order to have my second baby. I had a rough pregnancy and just couldn’t manage a day job, my older child, and the site. But, life happened and all of a sudden it’s 2024. Although just saying that “life happened” feels a bit too simplistic to explain everything.

Adjusting to having two kids was hard. A lot harder than I ever expected it would be. While I had that going on, I had other struggles going on in my personal life that made it a whole lot harder. Then I was betrayed. By the only person in my entire life that I have ever trusted completely. A deep betrayal. One that shook me to my core and ripped my soul from my body. So, I survived. One day at a time. One incremental decision at a time. Unfortunately, this process revealed to me a lot of “friends” and “family” that could only seem to support me if I was doing what they wanted, not what I felt was best.

Without getting into too many personal details, I had to rebuild my entire life. One tiny step at a time. While trying to make everything normal for my children so that they didn’t see that I was barely a human anymore. Before I knew it, my head was above water. Slowly. Tediously. Painfully. But above water all the same. Then suddenly I could find my feet again. Right about that time, another riptide of betrayal. I didn’t have to start completely over again, I was still above water this time.

Before I even knew it, it was 2024. I survived. I finally have my life back. I finally feel like myself again. I finally feel like I can enjoy the things that I used to enjoy. Which includes, this site.

For those who thought “wow, TLDR”, here is THE PLAN:

  1. Catch up on all the books that I was graciously given to review before my unexpected hiatus.
  2. Start bringing all of you great content again, on a regular basis.
  3. The plan starts tomorrow. With a review of a great book that I think you’ll love.

This ended up being a lot longer than I planned. And a lot more personal. Which is okay, this is my space after all.

I’m here. I’m healing. And I’m ready to be myself again.

Love,

6 thoughts on “A Mea Culpa and a path forward

  1. A virtual hug for you <3 

    Sorry to hear you had life dump heart-wrenching struggles that you needed to survive. Great to see you’re embracing things that you love again. Looking forward to your upcoming review!

  2. Hugs – and congratulations for having survived AND protected the children. It was no small feat.

    I hope you continue putting yourself first a little bit, and catching up – to a new version of who you’ve always been.

  3. Dear Stefani,

    Whatever it was, your children are lucky to have you. I’m so glad things are coming around for you – please take as good care of yourself as you can manage – you can’t take care of others if you don’t renew yourself.

    Sounds like platitudes, but isn’t: I had had other issues to deal with, but you do what you can, take the tiny steps, know it can get better (still maybe on that one for me), but you have been tested and not been found wanting.

    Gentle hugs your way – let me know if there’s anything I can actually DO.

    Love,

    Alicia

    1. Thank you, I appreciate your kindness and friendship these past few years. My kids are the most amazing little critters. And I have decided that all of the time and energy I was devoting into the wrong person is energy that I am now putting into myself. A scary concept but it has been refreshing and healing.

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